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  1. January 7, 2017

    good advice! my husband and I talked about marriage after two years of being together, but he didn’t propose until 3 years after that. timing is truly everything and if both parties aren’t 100% sure ready, it’s not a smart idea to rush into anything!

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  2. January 8, 2017
    pickle says

    Sorry but that’s not a great advice, it could be a year and it coud be 10 untill he says “sorry i met someone else (or any other reason), i don’t owe you anything, bye”. Is he doing anything to change his parents mind? Is he saving money for the ring? Or is it just excuses co he’s comfortable with the way things are since you alreasy act like you’re married, why bother, you won’t go anywhere! If i was in a similar situation i would concentrate more on doing my own things and become less avaiable for him, get a new hobby, skip a stay over on a weekend or 2. If he’s really set on spending the rest of his life with you he won’t let you slip away. Although be prepared that he won’t be ready for the big step and has different intentions.

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  3. January 11, 2017
    Natasha says

    Everyone is different, but I feel 2 years of relationship is not long enough to embark in a huge commitment such as marriage.

    I am in the second half of my twenties and I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. I can tell you, there is a lot you dont know about your partner after 2 years, even more if you are not living together. I absolutely love my boyfriend and everything I have learned about him in the last few years has made me love him more. But we are different regarding certain things and it could have been a dealbreaker.

    How does he handle stressful situations? How are his relationship with his parents and siblings? How does he feel about having kids? What are his political views? Do you have to pick up after him and cook for him all the time? How does he feel about both parents working when having young kids? What are his long term goals? Does he want to move and live somewhere else? Does he tend to communicate his worries or he keeps them to himself?

    These are just a couple of questions I feel partners should know about one another. It is possible to know the answer to these questions after 2 years. But most of the time, it is through life experiences that you learn how your partner deals with them, and 2 years is often not enough.

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