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  1. January 29, 2018
    Tina says

    Great advice! This sounds just like me, but just with graduate school instead of med school.

  2. January 29, 2018
    Jill says

    Hi Shana (and Amanda!),
    I’m not a blogger and I don’t think I’ve ever left a comment here, but I felt I had to given that I was in a very similar situation last year. First of all, I really commend you for being so persistent, applying to medical school is a grueling process and it says a lot about you that you have continued to work towards your goals despite not getting the results you wanted at first (I personally think this is a fantastic quality in a future doctor!). I applied myself last year and was crushed (to put it lightly) when I didn’t get in. Looking back, one of the hardest parts of this was exactly what you’re describing-people asking about it all the time (out of genuine excitement, which was so sweet, but made it more difficult in some ways) and me not wanting to talk about it because I felt so disappointed in myself. To be completely honest, I found myself dodging a lot of conversations and sometimes even certain people because of it, which I don’t recommend at all, as this was stressful in itself.

    In terms of actually dealing with this, I completely agree with what Amanda said about having a few close family members and/or friends tell others that this is a stressful topic for you right now and to wait for you to bring it up. This definitely helped me, especially initially when I was trying to figure out myself how I wanted to deal with all of this. To that point, one big thing that helped me was to make a plan for what I wanted to do next. Once I nailed down what I needed to focus on to improve my application to apply again, I felt a lot better in general and more comfortable telling others. After some time had passed and I came to accept (as much as I could) that I would be applying again, I was honest with some friends/colleagues/classmates, etc. about the situation. I would say that things were not going the way I had hoped/planned and that this was a difficult time for me, but that I had identified some areas I could work on so I could apply again. I won’t sugarcoat it and say this wasn’t hard, but for the most part, I was really touched by how understanding everyone was and it definitely got easier over time.

    Everyone is so different, so I’m not sure how much my experience with this might help you, but at the very least I hope you know you’re not alone in going through this (I definitely felt that way at times). I truly believe that hard work and perseverance pay off, so hang in there and focus on what you can do to get yourself where you want to go. Best of luck, I’m rooting for you!


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