Relationships are tough. They’re fun and they’re exciting, but damn, they’re not easy! And if I were to claim to be a relationship “expert”, I’d totally be lying. However, I feel as though I’ve been in enough relationships to be able to give some sound advice. Most of what I know is the result of past mistakes. So don’t feel bad, we’ve all been there. Here are 3 things I’ve learned about why communication is crucial – hope they help!
It helps with arguments
The topic I want to touch on today is communication. Communication is key to any healthy relationship. Despite its cliché, it couldn’t be more true, and I learned this the hard way. My previous relationship was incredibly unhealthy; however, I didn’t realize the root of the problem until the relationship was over. Not to say our relationship would have stood the test of time had our communication skills been better, but it would have made our (very frequent) arguments less harsh.
You should talk about everything
I never realized how important it was to talk to your partner. About everything! Not just the good stuff. If something is bothering you, let the other person know. 9 times out of 10, they have no idea you’re upset, which as we girls know, only makes us more upset. If you let your partner know you’re feeling jealous, insecure, or angry, you’ve given him the opportunity to fix it. And if he’s a good boyfriend, he will do whatever it takes to make you feel better.
It’s also incredibly important to talk about the good stuff! Whether you’re still in school or you’re out in the workforce, let your partner know about all the great things that happened to you during the day. Your partner wants to see you happy. It makes them happy!
It brings you closer to your partner
Communication is not only important for conflict resolution, it’s also an important tool in bringing you and your partner closer together. By sharing your concerns as well as your joys, you’re being vulnerable with each other. No one wants to admit when they’re feeling jealous, am I right? However, in doing so allows you and your partner to be that much closer. He feels special knowing that he’s the one you’ve chosen to confide in.
My boyfriend has taught me so much about healthy communication. I used to be (and sometimes still am) the queen of the silent treatment. I would just assume my partner knew what was wrong. After all, if he loved me he should, right? Well, I couldn’t have been more wrong. My boyfriend taught me to never bottle up my feelings. Even if I might sound a little crazy for being jealous of the bartender we’ll never see again, it’s incredibly important to have an open line of communication at all times.
Like I said before, relationships are work. If you feel like you have found the “one,” then I would highly recommend working on your communication skills. You owe it to yourself and to your partner. Best of luck, friends!
What communication tips can you share?
What have you learned from it?
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