When I was around 20 years old, I felt like I was “finally” ready for a real relationship. I wanted to meet someone that could finish my sentences and help me make sense of all the questions I had about myself. It was after a few attempts at getting this relationship that I thought I wanted so badly, that I realized I couldn’t look to anyone besides myself when it came to figuring out who I was. And until I had that realization, it never occurred to me that the best thing I could do for everyone (myself and my future boyfriend), was to find happiness, fulfillment and love for myself before finding it with someone else.
I’ll admit that what made me happy and fulfilled as a 20 year old is certainly very different than what makes me happy and fulfilled as a 25 year old, but learning about yourself never really ends, which is something to always remember as well—especially once you get into a serious relationship.
Here are a few reasons why you should love yourself before you find love in a relationship:
Know your own interests before assuming others’
I have friends and even family members, who, every time they’re in a new relationship they have a new set of hobbies. Now, don’t get me wrong, I think it’s fantastic to try and take an interest in the things your SO likes to spend time doing, and they should do the same for you.
But, if you take a moment to think about the things you enjoy doing only for yourself and you come up blank, take some time to work on that before jumping into another relationship....