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  1. July 12, 2016

    I think this is great advice! When I graduated from college, my first job was also a receptionist-in-disguise job. I also felt very low, bored, and not appreciated. I had all these ideas and energy, but no one in my office seemed to care.

    I ended up leaving that job, and now I’m searching for jobs in England (which is even harder because of the visa restrictions), but I hope no matter where I go, I won’t feel bored or like I’m not contributing anything.

    I think another useful piece of advice to those entering the work force is to not give up on their passions and hobbies outside of work. Those (often) define who you are more than your job or position. Who knows, maybe one day you can make money doing it, too!

    Good advice!

  2. July 12, 2016
    Heidi says

    Very timely post! My job does not bring me the most fulfillment in all aspects–I don’t feel challenged, but I’m happy to work in a field where I can help people make their dreams come true. So I’m trying to find other ways to engage the part of myself that isn’t engaged. I’m working on a graduate program online, I’m looking into community opportunities and I’m just trying to keep in perspective that my job is only one part of me and not what defines me.

  3. July 12, 2016
    XZ says

    Love this post!

    I think people have different life goals: some want a shiny career; some want a balanced, happy, laid back life; some value “building a family” more than others. All of this is perfectly OK.

    Personally I’m an OCD-driven workaholic. Yep. And I’ll admit that I more often than not equal my self-worth to my career. I think to some extend what I do does define who I am. And I’m fine with it.

    But I do work/interact with a lot of happy, content people, who are overall more laid back, and really work to live, instead of living to work. They don’t necessarily go as far when it comes to striving for excellence and going beyond expectations at work. Does that make them less worthy/not as good as I am? Not even a little bit. They are still awesome happy people.

    Now back to myself and career driven gals like me: comparing yourself against others, putting a $ value on your self worth, that anxiety, etc. I totally hear you. But as I get older, I’ve come to realize that one’s career status at this moment has a lot to do with natural talent and being in the right place at the right time. Not saying that hard work doesn’t pay off. It does. Sometimes just not right now. Most people’s career lives are between 30 and 40 years. that 6 months or even 2 years of feeling “behind” probably won’t matter in the long run anyway.

  4. July 12, 2016
    Marissa says

    Thank you for posting this!

    I’m currently in a similar entry-level receptionist-type position straight out of college and continually struggle with this feeling. I feel like I positioned myself too low and I will forever be stuck in this EA realm.

    Any advice on how you moved on and away from this?

  5. July 12, 2016
    Chloe says

    Reading this article and seeing all the other people commenting who are experiencing the same feelings is such a relief to me.

    I’ve had several breakdowns after being out of a college for a year because I see my friends being able to pay off their student loans or go on trips, yet here I am, “behind.” I haven’t seen the financial success some of my friends have, which makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong.

    I’m slowly realizing I’m not behind, I’m just on a different path. I’m trying to find more value and joy in the little wins that happen every day instead of only feeling pride in myself when I accomplish something big.

  6. July 12, 2016
    Devea says

    This post definitely rings true for me now. I am a junior in college right now, and I am on the pre-med track. The norm is to apply right now to medical schools, and go in, but because of some issues I have to take a gap year. It can be tough when all my friends are applying to schools knowing they are going to be enrolled in med school next year, and even my other friends who are finding amazing internships and jobs for when they graduate!

    I have to remind myself that titles can be deceving, and just because I am taking a gap year, that doesn’t mean that I don’t have the passion, drive, and hard work that it takes to excel.

    Thank you for this post! It is refreshing to hear someone else’s perspective on this!

  7. July 13, 2016
    Ashley says

    Thank you so much for this post! I am currently in a job where I feel underwhelmed and not challenged. I’m searching for other opportunities, but am still not entirely sure what I want to do. I often find myself comparing my job to others because my title or salary isn’t as great, but thank you for showing me that there’s so much more to me and life than that.

  8. July 15, 2016
    Kayla says

    LOVE this. I think one of the scariest things about graduating college was that I could no longer use that to “define me,” and I would miss that impressed reaction I would get when I told people where I went to school because it was a selective program.

    I’m totally guilty of asking people what they do to get the conversation rolling since I hate small talk, but as I’ve learned since graduating college it certainly doesn’t define me and is only a small part of what I do.

  9. July 20, 2016
    Yvonne Ho says

    Lovee this Amanda! I’ve always been very caught up on attaining the “dream job” so it’ll make me feel like i’m on top of my game, but the truth is that jobs doesn’t and shouldn’t define us! It’s only ONE aspect of our lives afterall!

  10. July 22, 2016
    Jennifer says

    I can totally relate to this! When I graduated college I started in a staff position and moved my way up to senior. Well I recently changed jobs and went back to a staff. I feel like I have fallen backwards in my career and I am below all of my colleagues. I didn’t think anything about it accepting my new role and the title it came with until I started. I truly felt I have been doing work that is too easy or beneath me. I have had to learn recently that while I may be in a role I feel is beneath me I am the one that determines how I shape my career and self-worth by looking for opportunities to show my employer I am capable of more than I have currently.

  11. July 30, 2016
    Christina says

    Love this post. Such an important message and one that is only just beginning to be recognised.

  12. August 23, 2016
    Blaire E says

    I have felt this way since I’ve been out of college! Everyone around me (friends and family) have seem to have found exactly what they are meant to do and I have struggled so much with my “career.” I’ve been a Recruiter for the past 3 years and worked at 3 different companies. Recruiting is not my passion and I feel so low because I just know that this isn’t the job for me. It’s difficult to get out of that rut and I struggle every day because I am generally a happy person but sitting behind a desk from 8-5 in a dark cubicle is not my idea of an exciting life :( I guess I need a kick in the butt or some inspiration to really go after something I want to do.

  13. September 4, 2016
    Joey says

    This piece is exactly what I needed to read. The last part is something I will take away with me ‘you can lose a job, you can never lose the abilities within yourself that got you that job in the first place’ . My boss is putting me through my paces and making me feeling I don’t deserve the my role in the company. This weekend was the first time I thought fuck it and if I lose my job, I will always find another one! xx

  14. May 6, 2017

    It’s a nice feeling that many people experience the feeling that I am experiencing right now. Questioning my self-worth, feeling so low because of my job in the reception, my boss always looking low on me and sarcastically answers every question I ask. My anxiety is getting worse because of this but hopefully, come the right time, I can be free to do the things that I love and I am passionate about.


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