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   Chandler Says

   Hi Amanda (and Claire),

   I am going through something similar with a guy at work–except he isn’t leaving in a year. I’ve known him for a little over a year (I started working there last August).

   “I don’t think losing him as a friend should be a reason not to tell him. If he’s truly a good friend and the type of person you respect, he should handle it gracefully and you should be able to remain friends. If it creates an issue, then he may not be the type of person you think he is anyway, or may not care for you as a person the same way.”
   Gosh how I really needed to hear this. I am ALWAYS terrified of telling people how I feel because of their reaction. But this is so true… if they can’t handle it, I shouldn’t want to be their friend anyway.

   But, I personally think you (Claire) should go for it. If you really like him and want to see if the relationship has a possible future, go for it. I mean worst case, you learn to do the long distance thing if it’s really meant to be. If it isn’t, well you move on with your life and don’t have to live with the “what-if”

   Either way, good luck! And let me know (if you want obviously) how it goes

   xoxo

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   Sonia Says

   Hey Amanda,

   So I need advice on what I should do with this guy that I’m into. Basically, I’ve known him for about 3 years, but I got close with him over summer 2017. We both were volunteering at our church bible school for the younger kids, and we starting to become friends so that’s when I started liking him. After the vacation bible school ended, during our church days he would talk to me and start to ask me questions about myself and things that I take interest in. We’re both in high school, but he’s two years older than me. Once I started attending the high school and he saw me he was all excited to see me. I’m a freshman and he’s a junior. He always says hi to me at school and occasionally has conversations with me but mostly talks to me at church. I really care for him and I can’t stand not knowing how he feels. I’ve been wanting to ask him about it, but I don’t want to make things awkward. We’re still in high school and I don’t know if he’ll be able to handle it the way I want him to. I don’t know if we’ll still be friend and I really do value our friendship. I’m always able to talk to him. I always give good advice to my friend about what she should do when she likes a guy and wants them to know how she feels. I give her outstanding advice, but I’m not even able to follow my own advice. I don’t have the courage to do such a thing. I don’t know how to build up the courage to do such a thing. I don’t even know what I should say if I’m able to build up the courage to do such a thing. I could really use your advice on how I should handle this. I can’t stop thinking about this guy, and I need to know whether he views me as a sister or as something more than a friend.

   Thanks,

   Sonia :)

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   dinah Says

   Hey amanda

   I have a guy bestfriend and we are close. We used to share everything. But lately, I always caught him stare at me. At first, I don’t really care bout ut because I thought that maybe it just a coincidence but it happenany times. I never think that our relationship will be more than a friend because he’s too perfect for me. One night he asked me if I have crush on him.. and until today I haven’t give any answers. Before I answered him, he deny that it wasn’t him the one who sent the text. I want to tell him I like him but I afraid of rejection even though I knew he likes me. I afraid his feelings not remains the same towards me.
   What should I do?
   Should I tell him?

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   Shalina Cabezudo Says

   Hey Amanda.
   Im starting to like a friend that I have been intimate with for quite some time. Ive known him for maybe 3 + years and we just started hooking up, like a friends with benefits type of thing. Not til recently Ive noticed how much I actually like him and it’s eating me inside by keeping it in. Im unsure if it will throw him off but maybe I should just say “fuck it” and be open. I just don’t want it to complicate or scare him away. I can tell he likes me because the way he looks at me and treats me when we’re out in public he just hasn’t told me how he truly feels. How do I know when it is the right time to tell him?

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   Hayley Says

   Hey Amanda,
   So, there’s this guy I really like and I don’t know if I should tell him or not. The problem is that he is my best friend, and I don’t want to loose him. I’m afraid that if I tell him, he will get really awkward and just stop hanging out with me. I’m just a teenager honestly, but I really like him.
   The other problem is that I’m pretty sure he doesn’t like me like that. He doesn’t really show me any signs that would suggest he likes me more than friends… so I’m afraid to tell him and get flat out rejected by my best friend, and then loose my best friend.
   Should I tell him?

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      Heather Says

      I think you should tell him how you feel as painful as that may be, I’m in a similar situation only he is friends with the same people I am which make avoiding each other impossible, and I’m pretty sure he like this other girl who we are both friends with, all of the friends know too and so does he but not from me. I’m going to tell him myself because I feel like it will just be something hanging over my head forever if I don5veven though he already knows.

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   Lulu Says

   Hi Amanda,

   There is this guy that I like. I take a bus with him every morning when I’mm off to work and every afternoon when coming back from work. He is basically all I need. Problem is, I’ve never spoke to the guy before. He just greets and passes by, make way for me whenever I have to pass, and smiles to me when our eyes meet. I try to make conversation with him but I just freeze and nothing comes out of my mouth. I make sure that I look good at all times, I think of him every second. This has been going on going on for about a year now. I don’t know what to do. Please help?

   1. 

      Sarah Says

      Hello lulu I have felt this problem before too but one thing is you have to treat him as a friend before anything else Cause if you can’t talk to him as a friend nothing is going to happen because of course to have a relationship you need communication

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   Sarah Says

   Hello so I am dealing with something like this right now but I honestly think I am in love with the guy the only problem is that I can’t talk to him cause I get super nervous and forget what I am saying also I loose feeling in my knees I really want to tell him but I don’t know how could you please help. Or anyone who sees this comment

   -Sarah