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Ask Amanda: How Do I Find a Therapist?

posted on January 19, 2018 | by Amanda Holstein

Ask Amanda: How Do I Find a Therapist?


Hi Amanda!

I just read your New Years Resolution post and I love your first goal to practice more self-compassion! This is something I constantly battle with—I struggle with anxiety and depression as well. I find it so easy to help others through tough moments, yet it is often difficult to treat myself with the same kindness and compassion.

Do you have any tips for finding a reliable therapist? This is something I’ve wanted to do for a long time, but have been putting off.

Happy New Year!



Hi Eva,

Great question! Finding the right therapist is definitely a process. I recommend trying out a few until you find the right fit. Not every therapist is going to be the right match for you. They all have different styles, different belief systems, and finding the right match makes all the difference. I remember seeing a therapist when I was in college and not enjoying the experience at all, so I stopped seeing her. Once I found someone who really understood me and who’s style of therapy I really responded to, that’s when I truly realized how powerful therapy can be.

As for starting your search, you can always start by going through your insurance to see who is in network. You can also read reviews on different doctors on Yelp, ZocDoc, or Healthgrades. Asking other doctors for recommendations is great too. Most general practitioners will have recommendations for psychiatrists, and most psychiatrists will have recommendations for therapists. Even your OBGYN may have some recommendations. Friends & family are great for recommendations as well, if you feel comfortable asking.

Just make sure you keep at it until you find the right one. You could get lucky and love the first person you see, but don’t be discouraged if they don’t feel like the right fit. It can take time to find the right match for you, but when you do, it’s SO worth it!

Good luck!

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