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  1. August 4, 2015

    I think it’s so wonderful that you are sharing about this – the more people who speak out & tell their stories of battling depression, the less stigma will be associated with it. There are so many women silently suffering without asking for help, so thank you for being honest & giving them a voice!

  2. August 4, 2015
    ALyssa says

    Thank you for this post. There are so many of us that struggle with different issues. I myself struggle with panic attacks and anxiety and it can be so hard. I think it’s so important to talk about these issues just like we’d talk about having a cold or virus. It’s very real! Again, thank you!

  3. August 4, 2015
    Amy says

    Thank you for sharing your experience of anxiety and depression with the world. I particularly liked the part about not shaming yourself for feeling down or stressed and I can also relate depression and anxiety being something that comes and goes. From my personal experience therapy can be very helpful and I recommend it to everyone I speak to who is struggling with something in their own life.

  4. August 4, 2015
    Heidi says

    I have always loved your blog, but this post takes it to a whole other level. This is such a real serious topic that I feel like a lot of people our age ignore. I love your take on the topic and that piece about acceptance really is sticking with me. I did therapy myself in college and it completely changed and bettered my life. Thank you so much for bringing attention to such an important topic!!

  5. August 4, 2015
    Emily says

    Thank you SO much for sharing. It really helps to hear someone else’s experience to know that you’re not alone. I really needed that right now!

  6. August 4, 2015

    I think being a 20- or 30-something these days is a lot harder than it was for the previous generation. The pressure to succeed can be suffocating! It’s good to know we’re not alone on this sentiment. Thank you for sharing your story!

  7. August 4, 2015
    Bree says

    Thank you so much for sharing this. I can relate to so much of this and really appreciate seeing that other people are going through the same or similar things. I think the more we open up about things like this the less taboo a topic it becomes!

    xo Bree

  8. August 4, 2015
    nikki says

    Thank you for sharing your story! i have a similar experience.. anxiety/depression showing up first at the end of college, and then rearing it’s ugly head a few times since then. the anxiety comes and goes, and the depression is primarily in the cold winter months.

    it’s good to read other stories, and hear their tips on how to deal!

    thanks again :)

  9. August 4, 2015
    Colleen says

    Your post definitely caught my attention as it seemed familiar. Eight years ago I was diagnosed with a change disorder triggering anxiety and depression. I saw a therapist steadily for two years, then on and off for another year. Anti-anxiety meds didn’t help, and while the anti-depressants did, they caused me to become insomniatic (which in turn didn’t make me feel any better). After trying the medication I went a non-medicated route: by learning to communicate better with those close to me, starting a daily exercise routine, spending at least 10 minutes outside everyday, and learning to recognize triggers/the beginning of the spiral I’ve been able to cope with it instead of trying to shame it away. There are many people who suffer in a similar way, but are too often shamed or ignored for feeling the way they do, and too many others who do not understand what it’s like. Thank you for sharing your post today. :) Round of applause from this reader!

  10. August 4, 2015

    Thanks so much for sharing your experience! I love your transparency. I agree that therapy is so amazing.

    When I’d experience intense panic attacks, I would focus on the aesthetics — taking a bubble bath or having someone scratch my back :) But the root cause/trauma needed to be addressed in a constant effort, and psychotherapy really helped with that.

    I’d say that seeing a therapist, treating myself to something nice, and moving out of my parents’ house helped me tremendously. One thing I learned recently in somatic psychotherapy is how to breathe and maneuver through the emotional pain/trauma in our bodies. If I knew this a few years ago, anxiety and depression wouldn’t have dominated my life!

    Whatever anyone’s route is, it should be to grow as a person and to learn to love yourself.

  11. August 4, 2015

    Thank you so much for sharing your story! I was actually writing a post about my experience with anxiety when I decided to take a break and read some blogs, and I stumbled across your post! This stuff isn’t always easy to talk about and share, so thank you so much for telling your story <3

  12. August 5, 2015
    Bex says

    I’ve considered going to see a councillor for several months now but have always told myself there is no point as I wouldn’t consider my case ‘serious’ I’m just not very happy at the moment and feel under a lot of pressure.

    Your post has encouraged me that it does help to just get things off your chest and have an expert give you some advice and it’s great to read everyone’s comments too.

    You’ve inspired me to look up the details of some councillors in my area and to look after myself a bit more. Thanks! Xx

  13. August 5, 2015
    kathryn says

    sounds like me. each move has triggered huge depression in me, something i couldn’t/didnt accept because moving around through my childhood and adulthood defined me. If i wasn’t happy upping sticks and relocating, who the hell was I? it took my latest move and the disintegration of my relationship to get me into therapy. the road has been long, and continues to be so, but i am happy to report that therapy has done wonders for me. Wonders!!

  14. August 5, 2015
    Taylor says

    Amanda, thank you so much for this post! I think as a twenty-something there is a lot of pressure in many different aspects of our lives – depression and what I like to call “downturns”. I agree that therapy is a great route, or a solid someone that understands how you operate and that this isn’t something you can control 100% and won’t judge you for what you are going through. Love your blog!

  15. August 6, 2015
    Hannah says

    As a future mental health counselor, thank you for sharing your therapy experience. I think a lot of people are scared of counseling or think it’s something to be ashamed about. I hope your story inspires people struggling to seek the support they need.

  16. August 7, 2015

    I struggled with anxiety in college, to the point where I was getting panic attacks. Similar to your situation, mine stemmed from my parent’s divorce, and dealing with the stress that it put on my family. I totally agree that identifying what it is that’s causing your anxiety can help tremendously! I’ve been wanting to try therapy for awhile, I have friends that regularly go and they swear by it.

    Thanks for sharing your story.

    Christina |

  17. August 8, 2015
    Jessica says

    Amanda – so great that you shared this on the blog, and I say that from a personal and from a therapist’s perspective. With all the social media posting out there showing only the “good” in people’s lives, it’s nice to come across something authentic and real. I am positive that many can relate. Best of luck with your upcoming transitions. From a ‘sister’ from a past life. -Jess

  18. October 21, 2015

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  19. July 4, 2016
    Arleen says

    I’m Arleen one if my family members sent me this blog about your 20s I came across this blog because I believe and I know I have anxiety with everything I do and I’ve accomplished a lot of things that I was afraid if failing but there’s one thing that really freaks me out….I am a mother of a three year old and I’ve never drove a car before this year I’ve been driving on little streets but once I get to the intersections and big streets my anxiety kicks in …I guess I drive fine when someone is with me but when I’m alone in too afraid and I know so many young people that drive and it gets to me even more because I’m 26 and I don’t know why it’s just hard for me to have the confidence to drive on my own ….sorry my message was so long …

    Thank you for hearing me out

  20. September 9, 2016
    Megan says

    I am so happy you shared this blog about therapy. I am a firm believer in it, but question whether or not my current therapist is good. Do you have a list of questions that you suggest I use to see if a therapist is good?

  21. November 10, 2016

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  22. November 18, 2016

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  23. December 21, 2016
    Nicole says

    I’ve just started college in August and I really don’t think I’m handing the transition well. I’ve always suffered with migraines, but recently they’ve gotten worse. I have to retake two of my classes next semester, and being a straight A student, I’m really don’t understand what’s going on. Not to mention my grandmother just passed away. My doctor referred me to a therapist because she thinks I might be suffering with anxiety and/or depression, but I’m having a hard time accepting that could be the case. I’m not used to asking people for help and I’m battling what getting diagnosed with anxiety and/or depression would mean for me. Frankly I’m kind of scared. Would therapy really help? Would I feel worse? I’m very prideful and I don’t feel like I need help. And I feel like being diagnosed with depression would be a huge blow to me and I wouldn’t handle that well either. And I guess I’m just looking for information. I want to know that if I get diagnosed with either of these things, I’m going to be the same me and that the people that I care about won’t see me differently.

  24. April 14, 2017
    Tynyta says

    You have no idea how much your blog has been blessing me. I have always wanted to relate to someone who is around my same age, and you have really helped me. Just want to tell you thank you and I really admire what you do. I look forward to your journey, as your will to step out and do what you love is helping young women like me who just need to take a leap of faith as well. God bless you and thank you! I love this blog a lot!!!!!

  25. May 25, 2017
    Pamela says

    These blogs sometimes just look too good to be true: beautiful girl, beautiful clothes, perfectly appointed items in charming locations…then this!!! Real real real. Thank you for being real and sharing your real struggle because it is something that we all struggle with in one way or another. Thank you! ❤️

  26. November 29, 2017
    Cyndrel says

    I love it when people are brave enough to say that they are NOT okay. We don’t always have to be okay. I agree with you on your anxiety triggers – major life changes! I experience that way too much too. I’ve had my fair share of roller coaster kind of emotions ever since I hit my 20’s. I’m 29 now and at times, I still feel it creeping back from time to time, but at least, now I know better. I have also read a lot of blog posts like this, international and local books and I’ve listened to TED Talks about it. We shouldn’t listen to the social stigma about anxiety and depression. These problems are real, just like cancer or other terminal diseases. It’s okay to seek help and be healed from this. I like that word you learned from your therapist – ACCEPT. That is definitely a life-changing word! I’ve avoided being depressed for so long because I thought I never had a legit reason to feel this way, that this feeling is invalid and that there are people who had it worse and they are fine, so, I should be too.

    Well, I’ve realized depression can hit anyone…ANYONE regardless of age, gender and race.

    Great post, Amanda! This is very inspiring!

  27. July 23, 2018

    Thank you Amanda for sharing your experience and i appreciate your encourage fighting Anxiety. I know experience with Anxiety is never good but there are few who get out of this.

  28. August 14, 2018
    Des says

    I thank you for sharing your experience with us. I have gone through a series of ups and downs throughout the last theee years of my life. I have gone to one therapist but soon after I stopped going. I regret it fully. I had been struggling with promiscuity self validation and a lot of guilt and shame considering that was never the person I was, but feeling like I had been missing out on something because I went from serious relationship to serious relationship; I wanted to experience what I was missing out on. Wasn’t much to experience and instead I developed major depression disorder, anxiety and a year and a half later, I am still going through rough mental health issues.
    I have yet to find someone who has a similar story to mine, i don’t feel any relation. But every situation is different. Thank you for sharing again.


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