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Ask Amanda: My Family is Doubting My Big Move

posted on January 22, 2016 | by Amanda Holstein

Ask Amanda: My Family is Doubting My Big Move


Hi Amanda!

I am *finally* graduating from college in May. San Francisco is my favorite city, and I am hoping to get a job and move out there over the summer. I am so ecstatic to begin a new chapter of my life in a new city with a new job!

The only thing that is frustrating me, however, is that whenever I tell anyone — even my mom — that I am wanting to move to SF, their first response is, “You know it’s, like…really expensive out there, right?”.

The answer to this question is always “yes”. Yes, I know that SF is always #1 on the Most Expensive Cities list, and yes, I know that there will have to be lots of budgeting and sacrificing made to live there. I typically just brush these comments off, but after getting that response so many times, I can’t help that it has started to bring me down and make me question whether or not I could actually survive financially out there.

What is your advice when it comes to newbies who want to move to the Bay Area? This is such an awkward topic to bring up, but I just need some reassurance!


PS: all of your SF neighborhood guides are making me want to move out there even more!!


Hi Kate!

Thanks for your email! I am VERY familiar with that response and my response is always — yes it is expensive, but it’s SO worth it!

The truth is, if you really want to live here, you can make it work. There are TONS of recent grads and twenty-somethings living here and they all find a way to do it successfully. Sure, you sacrifice space and have to be more conscious of your budget, but it’s definitely doable. Plus, there are SO many free things to do here like hiking, beach, parks, that you don’t spend as much on activities and entertainment.

Throughout life there are always going to be people questioning your decisions, but remember that their response is much more about themselves than it is about you. If you have the confidence and the will to make it work, then have faith in that. All that matters is your opinion and that you can and will make it work!

I hope this helps :).

xoxo and welcome to San Francisco!!!

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