Why Communication is Key For a Healthy Relationship

posted on June 27, 2018 | by Jess Ciesla

Relationships are tough. They’re fun and they’re exciting, but damn, they’re not easy! And if I were to claim to be a relationship “expert”, I’d totally be lying. However, I feel as though I’ve been in enough relationships to be able to give some sound advice. Most of what I know is the result of past mistakes. So don’t feel bad, we’ve all been there. Here are 3 things I’ve learned about why communication is crucial – hope they help!

It helps with arguments

The topic I want to touch on today is communication. Communication is key to any healthy relationship. Despite its cliché, it couldn’t be more true, and I learned this the hard way. My previous relationship was incredibly unhealthy; however, I didn’t realize the root of the problem until the relationship was over. Not to say our relationship would have stood the test of time had our communication skills been better, but it would have made our (very frequent) arguments less harsh.

You should talk about everything

I never realized how important it was to talk to your partner. About everything! Not just the good stuff. If something is bothering you, let the other person know. 9 times out of 10, they have no idea you’re upset, which as we girls know, only makes us more upset. If you let your partner know you’re feeling jealous, insecure, or angry, you’ve given him the opportunity to fix it. And if he’s a good boyfriend, he will do whatever it takes to make you feel better.

It’s also incredibly important to talk about the good stuff! Whether you’re still in school or you’re out in the workforce, let your partner know about all the great things that happened to you during the day. Your partner wants to see you happy. It makes them happy!

It brings you closer to your partner

Communication is not only important for conflict resolution, it’s also an important tool in bringing you and your partner closer together. By sharing your concerns as well as your joys, you’re being vulnerable with each other. No one wants to admit when they’re feeling jealous, am I right? However, in doing so allows you and your partner to be that much closer. He feels special knowing that he’s the one you’ve chosen to confide in.

My boyfriend has taught me so much about healthy communication. I used to be (and sometimes still am) the queen of the silent treatment. I would just assume my partner knew what was wrong. After all, if he loved me he should, right? Well, I couldn’t have been more wrong. My boyfriend taught me to never bottle up my feelings. Even if I might sound a little crazy for being jealous of the bartender we’ll never see again, it’s incredibly important to have an open line of communication at all times.

Like I said before, relationships are work. If you feel like you have found the “one,” then I would highly recommend working on your communication skills. You owe it to yourself and to your partner. Best of luck, friends!

What communication tips can you share?
What have you learned from it?

7 Comments

Eva Says

I couldn’t be more agree about what you say here. With my boyfriend, we told each other everything in our life very soon. It made our relationship very healthy as we had no secret. But I still find myself being angry or upset without saying anything because as you said, if he loved me he would know. But it doesn’t work like that, isn’t it? Working on yourself worth the effort because we have to fight for our love.

Natasha Says

I completely agree with this advice, communication is key!

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Inna Says

What a wonderful post! I absolutely agree with you! Communication is key :)

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Anna Says

Great article Jess and so true. I have not had too many relationships before, but my current relationship is based on open and honest communication about both good and bad stuff. I suffer from anxiety and I realised that waiting for my partner to figure out what is wrong is just making my panic attacks worse. I learnt how to tell him what worries me or how his actions make me feel. I am also a jealous person, so being open about this was a difficult but important step for building a trust between us.
I believe good communication can prevent arguments and breakups and strengthen the relationship in many ways.

All the best,

Mark Calloway Says

Thank you for this article it’s great, partner conversation is sometimes tricky when the situation is tense. I hired this website for my relationship their services are good they make the conversation flow lightly. Check out their website: https://therelationshiptalk.com

Jimmy Wales Says

It brings you closer to your partner

This the nice Point …

Thanks For sharing these amazing guide

NARAYAN SHANKAR RAO Says

It is a very valuable article on importance of deep quality communication to keep relationship healthy and strong. I really liked the idea that people often feel embarrassed to talk about what they want that comes from deeper place inside where one feels the most vulnerable. I have seen many marriages being sacrificed for want of expressing the deeper feelings. I am sure this article is bound to help couples to save their marriages.

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