I can remember experiencing sleep anxiety as a little girl at sleepovers, worrying I’d be the last one awake. To make it worse, I’d literally be anxious all day long about whether I’d be able to sleep that night. In my 20s, that anxiety has morphed into sometimes waiting hours before I can fall asleep. From replaying the day over and over in my head to listing my to-dos for the week, my brain feels like it just won’t shut off.
Since sleep anxiety is something that affects me every single day, I’ve worked really hard at finding ways to cope. Because we need sleep to function! If you’re also experiencing some type of sleep anxiety, take a look at what helps me ease my nightly angst.
1. Drink less (alcohol).
I’m sure we’ve all experienced the general anxiety that comes with a hangover—it’s not fun, especially on top of a headache. And after talking to doctors about culprits behind my sleep anxiety, we noticed a trend of hangovers. Every day that I was hungover, my sleep anxiety would be through the roof. Limiting how much and often I drink has helped tremendously.
Also, my sleep anxiety seems to be worst on Sundays in general—the Sunday scaries—so if I am drinking, I prefer to do it on a Friday vs. Saturday.
2. Create a routine.
It might be an obvious note, but it is simply difficult for our bodies and minds to shut down immediately. Instead of going straight from a TV show to forcing my body to fall sleep (and stressing my system out), I’m now adamant about a nighttime routine. It prepares my mind that it’s time to settle and it’s something I look forward to now.
My current routine is: phone in airplane mode, skin care, diffusing lavender oil, reading a book, zzzzzz!
3. Eat less sugar.
Similar to alcohol, sugar can wreck havoc on stress and your body. I try to limit my sugar consumption, especially later in the day, to ensure a good night’s sleep.
4. Try a sound machine.
When I first moved to San Francisco, I had neighbors that lived above me. Though they weren’t purposefully loud, hearing their movement would keep me awake. Not knowing when they’d stop walking around and be quiet was really hard on my anxiety levels. Getting a sound machine that fades out noise was a major help!
5. Have a backup plan.
This is only relevant if you share a bed with someone else, but my boyfriend and I will spend the night apart—in the same apartment—if I’m feeling anxious. Luckily, we have a spare bedroom so it’s easy, but even when we didn’t, I’d make up the couch before bed. Simply being in another room from a person—not worrying about keeping them up, their snoring, whatever—puts your mind at ease.
6. Be open about it.
Something that has unsuspectingly helped with my sleep issues is talking about it. Now that my friends and family know that it’s a stressor for me, they are much more likely to let me have the quiet room on vacations or help prioritize my sleep. People that love you will understand and help.
7. Try a brain dump.
Anxiety is often times linked to what’s going on in our minds. I keep a notebook in my nightstand and on extra busy days, I’ll write down everything I’m thinking. That might be an idea, my to-do list, personal feelings, whatever! Dumping all your thoughts out before trying to sleep is key for stressful nights.
I hope these ideas help because sleep really is a precious thing! If you’re having anxiety around it, I highly suggest you make soothing it a priority.
Emily Says
I’ve recently discovered that I fall asleep much easier if I’m listening to some sort of noise. I like the Calm app because you can download different sound effects and put them on a timer. I’ll listen to ocean waves while I’m falling asleep! It works wonders.
Julia Says
Thanks for this article! :) I’m going to try the tip on a sound machine as I also have neighbours that live above me and are quite noisy.
Lily Says
Thanks for writing about this and removing a little of the taboo from the conversation of wanting more sleep. I feel like coffee and sleep deprivation are so chic these days. I definitely used to have a hard time putting myself to bed and a lot of these tips really worked out. I did some work with my diet too, to regulate my blood sugar and help me feel more calm before bed.
Sleeping Steve Says
You’re right about the diet/sugar and the alcohol. Putting your body through an unnatural cycle of energy can make it hard to go to sleep.
Ashley Hayes Says
Thanks for sharing such great tips. I am having anxiety for a very long time, though it’s not that bad. So I am now going to try to create a routine at night, instead of just falling asleep with my iPad.
Katie McC | Katie's Kronicles Says
I experienced sleep anxiety almost a year ago and went nights without 0 sleep. It was a really tough season in my life and I didn’t feel safe. People don’t understand if they’ve never experience it. But I get you girl. I’d literally be SO anxious all day wondering if I’d fall asleep at night which would cause me to then not fall asleep. I legit would be afraid to go to sleep or even climb in my bed. It’s gotten way better over the past few months but I’ve noticed when I spend less time on social media before bed, I sleep muchhhh better!!!! I try very hard to give myself 1-2 hours of no screen time before bed. The journal part is so true!!! Writing out ideas, worries, to-do is so helpful!!!
Matt Says
Such a nice post! It’s been about a month now, and to my great surprise I’ve persisted with the early starts. I have to admit that I have skipped a couple of Sunday mornings, and that 5am has nudged back to 5.30am, but the concept of early to bed early to rise is really working well for me. In many post all the expert gives such amazing techniques steps to become an early riser like your post is also an inspiration. Sometimes I feel blessed to use internet that I can sleep better also wake up early because of many research and now its becoming my habit. Few day ago I read Successful People Give Up Habits to Increase Their Productivity and one of the habit was They don’t work in their comfort zone. But I think its not the right thing. If I do better and better in my comfort zone then I can be more Productive person. But its true proper sleep is must be needed which I follow to do.
I feel much more in control of the day and more productive overall – also the afternoon fatigue has calmed down as I’ve got used to the new rhythm. Besides I do regularly research about better sleep way. .Great post to read For now I’ve no plans to revert back to being a night owl, but I suspect cold winter mornings might provide a true test. Wonder if any other challenge night owls have become early birds? By the wayThanks for sharing lovely post keep it up.
Michelle Henry Says
Great tips! I especially like the “brain dump”. This is something a lot of other sources don’t advertise and I think it is very important. Thanks for sharing!
Vivian Lopez Says
I can not sleep well recently and I am so glad to see the article. I will follow the instructions to sleep better. Thanks for sharing!
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Varun sharma Says
I first moved to San Francisco, I had neighbors that lived above me
Veronika Says
It’s great that you share your experience, it’s very helpful. Our quality of sleep largely depends on how we feel and the atmosphere around us. Very often before going to bed I drink mint or chamomile tea, it helps me calm down and tune in to rest. If the day was very active – sleep aids will become a constant helper, you can also find best sleep aids here. It is also very important for me that the room was dark, fresh air and complete silence, all these factors are very important if you want to improve the quality of sleep