A lot of articles talk about habits to add to your life with age. While those are necessary, I’ve found that it’s just as important to ditch certain ones as well. Your twenties are a time for experimenting, having fun, getting to know yourself, and growing into a confident, mature person. You’re also kind of stuck between a kid and a real adult, so it’s really a time of transition—which is good and bad!
My twenties have been a blast, but I’ve also learned so much about what’s important to me, my health, and my happiness. As I get closer to thirty, there are some things that I’m excited to leave behind.
1. Binge drinking
It started in college, and for me, it’s been a (horrible) habit that’s lasted throughout my twenties. Not only is it unsafe and expensive, but it’s also bad for your body! There’s no need to drink enough to get sick or not remember things, so staying clear of binge drinking has been a welcomed broken habit. I find that having a couple drinks—or even ONE—is enough to relax me without going overboard on my liver or morals.
2. Being indecisive
I categorized myself as an indecisive person for the longest time. I began to realize that a lot of my indecisiveness had to do with trying to please other people. Rather than listening to what my gut was telling me, I was letting other people’s opinions sway me. Now, I try my best to block out the judgements of others, hone in on what my instinct is telling me, and go with it. In turn, I have become much quicker and deliberate when it comes to making decisions.
3. Saying “yes” just because
Because I was such a people pleaser, I spent a lot of time saying “yes” to things I wasn’t actually interested in. I can’t count the number of times that I’d say yes to something when I knew I’d eventually bail, then have to stressfully draft a text canceling the day of. Now, I’m not as afraid to disappoint others. I need to do what’s best for me, so if saying “no” is the right choice, then I say it upfront instead of waiting until the last minute.
4. Not getting enough sleep
In my teens all I did was sleep. And in my twenties, all I did was not sleep. Between a growing career, trying to fit in adult responsibilities, going out, and meeting new people post-college, there’s a lot to do other than sleep. I let my sleep suffer for a long time, but am officially over not getting a full eight hours. I’ve found that my body and mind truly need at least eight, so now I make it a priority.
5. Overspending
I’ve never been great at saving money, but my early twenties make me cringe when I think of how much I wasted on trendy clothes, bar tabs, eating unhealthy takeout, etc. Without a budget and tabs on how much I was spending—and not saving—I threw away a lot of money. I’m definitely excited to leave irresponsible spending in my past. Mint.com is how I know keep track of my finances, FYI, and I don’t use my credit card unless I can pay it off that day.
I still have a lot of poor habits to get rid of, but it feels good to get those major ones out of my system. What’s a habit you’ve been happy to break in your 20s?
Today’s post is written by contributor Chelsea Becker, a San Diego native,
living and writing in San Francisco. Follow her on Instagram & Pinterest.
christa Says
Yes to all of these!!
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Steve Says
Number 3. Saying “yes” just because.
It really resonates with me. It’s the whole “you’re too nice” thing. Putting others needs and feelings in front of your own all the time leads to being taken for granted unfortunately. We need a balance of helping others out but also doing what’s right for ourselves.
Cheers
Steve
http://www.sleepbetteramerica.net
Lauren Says
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Charlotte Dawson Says
I so needed to read this. I am 20 years old, i will be 21 in March.
Now i do not drink that often really, so thats alright.
I AM SO INDECISIVE, in every aspect of my life, which irritates the hell out of my boyfriend.
If i see something i want i tell myself its just a treat, and then im super upset when the money leaves my bank haha!
Sleeping more makes a whole lot of sense, my mind and my body do need a little rest now and then.. Well every night!
Thank you for such an easy to read post, and a beautiful blog.
Loved it x
Nina Says
#1 Binge Drinking is a new one I have been telling myself to completely stop. I turned 29 in September and I told myself I wanted to break the “i can handle one more glass of wine” mentality into my 30’s. I just don’t like feeling groggy in the morning anymore and like you said it is very unhealthy and unsafe!
Also, #5 is a constant struggle but, I think I am finally learning a few much needed lessons in my spending habits.
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Ya'heia Says
This post is perfect for me. I’m about to turn 21 next month and I’m really.looking forward to it. Of course, I’ve already had my share of drinks (not a ton but still), but I’m excited to be able to buy stuff ‘I’ wanna drink. And also bring able to buy cheese fries at the bar’s store because they’re bomb (but because they also sell alcohol you have to be 21 to enter, wasn’t always like that).
I’m definitely too indecisive for my own good. I’m constantly second guessing myself, especially when it comes to school work.
I have insomnia so getting enough sleep is a luxury that I don’t get to have.
I’m not even gonna go into ‘overspending’ *cringes at self*
Angela Shaw Says
Oooooh great tips! So hard not to draw a line on saying yes to just because- sometimes it does end up being fun!! But most of the time, yes huge waste of time and money
Annie Says
I turn twenty in two weeks, so these are so helpful for me! I have a huge problem being indecisive/people pleaser. I want to change that this upcoming year! Saying yes to everything really catches up with you and I am in the middle of that busy, stressful time due to my people pleasing! I love sleep, so I can for sure get more! I had a problem with overspending, but lately I have been so much better! I need to make sure that continues this year! Thank you so much for your words of wisdom! All of these are preparing me well for turning twenty soon!!!
Michaela Says
I’m so happy that I never really picked up these habits in the first place – I guess growing up impoverished kind of put a dent in any ability I would have had to overspend on stuff I don’t need or binge drink a lot.
I guess if I had a habit I would like to break, it be my penchant for staying up late and watching Youtube videos until the wee hours. It probably won’t happen, but I can still dream!
Sharon Says
Stumbled across this post. It is as if I wrote it myself. I had to bring out my notepad and write them down. They are all habits I need to break.
Sharon Says
Stumbled across this post. It is as if I wrote it myself. I had to bring out my notepad and write them down. They are all the habits I need to break.