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Ask Amanda: My Parents Don’t Support My Decision

posted on April 22, 2016 | by Amanda Holstein

Ask Amanda: My Parents Don’t Support My Decision


Hi Amanda!

I’ve been in a bit of a rut lately. I have pretty much no motivation to do anything anymore, not even to wake up in the morning. I used to have lots of things I loved to do (read, exercise, play piano), but now all these things just seem like a hassle. I spend all my time on my phone telling myself to get up and do something (like my homework), but I just can’t bring myself to do it. My grades have been getting a little lower but it hasn’t been a dramatic change. I really want to have the motivation to do the things I love, or at least used to love, and get back into the swing of things. I’ve been feeling like this for about a month or two and I just want to feel more motivated and inspired to be productive and happy.

Also, I have recently decided to become a vegetarian and my parents don’t really support my decision. This adds to my frustration a lot.

Thank you so much,


Hi Melissa!

It sounds like you are in a bit of a depression (don’t worry — it’s totally normal and everyone experiences it), and it sounds like it may be stemming from the situation with your parents. When you’re young and living with your parents, you may feel like you need your parents’ approval and support on every decision you make. As you grow up, you’ll learn that this is your life and only you can make these decisions. Not everyone is going to agree with them, but that’s totally fine and it doesn’t mean they love you any less. You are your own person, so it makes total sense that you won’t agree with everyone on everything all the time.

I think it’s important to accept the fact that they don’t support you being a vegetarian. They don’t need to approve of everything you do (as long as it’s not affecting you or them negatively) and if this is important to you, then you need to stick with it and feel confident in your decision. Know that they still love you and support you — they’re just looking out for you and probably want to make sure you are making healthy choices because they care about you.

I would say once you can accept the fact that you and your parents disagree on this, you’ll feel more free, less stressed, and even less depressed. It’s totally normal for something like this to affect your whole mood and weigh on you until it’s resolved — I am the same way! Talk to your parents about it and try to be okay with the idea that they may not agree with your choice.

I hope this helps my dear!



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