Dating “Rules” That Are Made To Be Broken
posted on June 20, 2019 | by Jess Ciesla
The dating scene has certainly evolved over the years. With technology making it incredibly convenient to meet just about any type of person you can think of, dating in 2019 is kind of a free for all. Most of the traditional dating “rules” don’t apply to this generation. I mean, chivalry isn’t completely dead, but it’s certainly not the same as it used to be. And that’s OK. So today I decided to share a few of the dating “rules” that I think are OK to break. Heck, I’ve even broken a few of them myself!
The Guy Makes The First Move
As a woman myself, I can honestly say that it’s extremely flattering to have the guy make the first move. It also makes it a heck of a lot easier for the girl. I’m not the most forward person when it comes to just about anything, so the thought of making the first move kind of makes me nauseous. However, I know a lot of girls out there who aren’t afraid to initiate the first conversation and begin flirting with a guy (or girl) they’re interested in. And that’s amazing! Just because you make the first move, doesn’t mean that the guy isn’t interested. You’re not doomed from the beginning. If you want to talk to someone, talk to them!
You Have To Date For “X” Amount Of Years Before Getting Engaged
Some people date forever and never get married, some people date for 5+ years before they get married, and some people date for a year or less and decide to tie the knot! There’s no magic number when it comes to marriage. If you and your partner are happy, then that’s all that matters. Matt and I dated for less than 2 years before we got engaged. And to some people, that seemed crazy. But for us, it was the right choice.
You Need To Get All Dolled Up
I don’t know about you, but if I were going out on a date, I’d want to be comfortable. Cute and comfy is kind of my bread and butter. Getting all dolled up is just not in my wheelhouse. Now don’t get me wrong, I’ll take the time to do my hair and makeup and pick out a nice outfit, but you won’t find me in 4-inch heels and a dress. When you feel good in what you’re wearing, you’ll be so much more relaxed on your date. With that being said, not everyone is like me. I know people who LOVE to get dressed up. So, if that’s you, then by all means wear that red lipstick and those 4-inch pumps! Basically, what I’m saying is there’s no rules regarding your outfit for a date. Wear what makes you feel good. Period.
When it comes to dating, the only real rule is to do what feels right to you. A date doesn’t necessarily mean a night out on the town. It could simply be a night in watching Netflix and ordering takeout. Or maybe you’re the adventurous kind and you want to go for a hike or play tennis. Screw the dating “rules” and just have fun!