If You’re Jealous In Your Relationship, Here’s How to Stop
posted on February 28, 2019 | by Jess Ciesla
A bit of jealousy here and there is perfectly normal, whether that be in a romantic relationship or just life in general. Jealousy is a feeling that we all experience and it’s completely natural. However, like anything in life, too much of something is bad for the soul. And that statement certainly holds true when it comes to jealousy. So why do we get jealous? Well, there are several reasons someone might experience jealousy. We’ve all been there, right? You see your significant other eyeing up some other girl, or at least you think they’re eyeing her up. And suddenly, your face gets hot and your blood starts boiling in complete and utter rage.
So, today I decided to share some reasons you may be feeling this way and how you can stop jealousy in its tracks.
Accept Your Insecurities
Everyone has insecurities. No matter how confident someone may seem, we are all human beings and we all feel insecure at times. Some days we just don’t feel pretty. In fact, some days we feel like complete crap about ourselves. And you know what? That’s OK. Once you accept the fact that you’re not perfect, you’ll be able to move past those feelings of jealousy. No one is perfect, and therefore, you shouldn’t hold yourself to an unattainable standard. If the person you’re with truly loves you, then you have nothing to worry about.
Be Open About Your Feelings
Wow is this one tough. But once you learn how to be open and honest with your significant other about your feelings of jealousy, everything gets so much easier to deal with. Think about it. It’s much easier to cope with your feelings if you let the person know how you’re feeling. This gives your significant other the chance to reassure you and make you feel better about the situation. If you don’t open up about how you’re feeling, odds are they will never even know that they did something to upset you. And this can only drive you even more crazy. Trust me, I’ve been there!
Focus on the Good Instead Of The Bad
It’s easy to imagine the worst when you’re in a relationship with someone you love oh so much. You start to worry that this amazing guy is too good to be true, and that he’s bound to leave you for someone smarter, prettier and more successful. However, instead of focusing on all of the bad things that could happen, start focusing on all the good things are happening right now! You’re in a great relationship with a great guy. Don’t bum yourself out over the “what ifs”.
Unfortunately, there’s no magic pill you can take to stop these crazy feelings from happening. That feeling will probably always be there, but how you react to it is what matters the most. Keep your head up and remember that you are beautiful, smart and worthy of happiness!
Best of luck, friends.
I get very jealous in my relationship, but I was clear from the beginning about this annoying habit with my boyfriend. I explained that I had negative experiences and explained I can get jealous at time and that I am working on it. When the jealously takes over me, I just try to remind myself that we love each other and I am reading into things, focus on the good as you say!
Thank you for this post
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Love this blog post! Jealousy has always been an issue for me, but I’d definitely learned how to self-love and be more open about my feelings.
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