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  1. April 8, 2016
    Stephanie says

    This seems like a very stressful situation to be in, and it’s really normal to be overwhelmed by the success and the comments of everyone else. I think you’re right, Amanda, that Ali is in a temporary state where she will learn so much about herself. I also agree that it all starts with being her own cheerleader, because once we’re accepting of ourselves, we won’t define ourselves by everyone’s standards of success.

    When I graduated from college, my boyfriend had a set job, an apartment, etc. I had just landed a part-time internship, and I felt embarrassed for not having the ideal 40hr/wk job like everyone else. But I worked really hard with what I had, and a year later, I was promoted twice, found the perfect studio to live in, and bought a car. I’d like to reassure Ali that finding an internship or part-time gig with a company that’s in her realm would be very wise to look into as well, because you can get your foot in the door (either with that company or a similar one). Being open to different opportunities — even ones I would have rejected in my dreams — got me where I am today. Good luck, Ali!

  2. April 8, 2016

    Seriously loving this post!! It’s so true to love yourself and be your own cheerleader during this time! XO


  3. April 8, 2016
    Grace says

    I just had to write in to this one.. Ali, I don’t think your bf may have put as much stock in this relationship as you have. You asked if you were a loose end and he replies with “its college”?? I read that as “hey, if she comes, cool, if not, I got this sweet job anyways”.

    The other thing to put to mind is has he been helping you look for a job…could he put feelers out at his own company, or ask the HR person there if they have contacts at other places that might find a place for you?

    -Someone who’s been in a very similar situation

  4. April 9, 2016

    This was so helpful to read as I am four months into post graduate life and finding the job search pretty unbearable and discouraging as well.

    Thank you both for sharing!



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