1. Kate says

    I love this thought and definitely agreed when newly single myself. However – see if you still feel this way a year from now.

    My feelings changed drastically from the first year of being single to the second.

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  2. Dee says

    I am with Kate. I don’t want to waste my time with someone unsuitable and if I need a date for a company party or something I ask one of my single friends. But ultimately I want to make memories that we could look back at with my hubby when we are old:D But I understand you have these feelings, since you are out of a long term relationship.

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  3. Resonates now more than ever. Hope you’re doing well in your new situation! wishing you the best

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  4. Jodi says

    I love that you came out and said all of this. I try to tell my best friend this all the time. It’s so very true and it’s nice to have a guy who fills the void of companionship, but you don’t have a title on the relationship. Stay single, get to know you, and enjoy your time with all types of people out there. You’ll find out more what you do want and when that guy comes along, you’ll know it. But the trick is, of course, stop looking. He will come when he is suppose to.

    Yay to single lady status.
    xx

    http://www.thelastcleantshirt.com

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  5. Brie says

    As a “seasoned” single lady I can also really appreciate this advice. I’ve dated many types of men and enjoy the dating process of finding what fits and what doesn’t. I am dating a guy right now who is not, in my opinion, “the one” yet I feel an urge to have a DTR (define the relationship) talk with him. After reading your advice Amanda, I come to my senses and feel very encouraged! My friends don’t quite understand why I continue to talk to him after I informed them that I have no interest in dating him long-term. Next time they ask, I’ll share these thoughts :)

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  6. Oh, how I love this! I have a best friend who goes through this “he’s The One” phase every guy she gets along with. We’re polar opposites in this sense (she’s had a tonne of boyfriends which she all thought were “the One” and I’ve had no boyfriends), but it’s always frustrating how everybody seems to want to find “The One” ASAP. You should love yourself and learnt to love to be by yourself before you go out searching for someone long term. They’re my feelings on it anyway.

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  7. Roger holstein says

    Sound advice from a twenty something.

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  8. Maggie says

    Just valid advice–also newly single after 6+ years of a relationship which is both terrifying and liberating all at the same time. I’ve had friends who have found themselves in the same position and the minute they relaxed and stopped focusing on finding “the one”, someone walked into their lives. Sort of like the old school “a watched pot never boils” saying…sometimes you’ve got to let go, have fun, and let the universe work out it’s plan for you!

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