What To Wear On a First Date

posted on May 29, 2014 | by Amanda Holstein

The first date is a tricky little thing, especially when it comes to choosing the right outfit. You don’t want to be too dressed up and seem high maintenance, or even worse, slutty. Yet you still want to look feminine and flirty. To avoid the slut-vibe, I recommend choosing one asset to flaunt and keeping the rest of the outfit more conservative. A slinky tank like this one shows off some skin and is still sexy, even without any cleavage. The sheer detail and thin straps make it perfectly flirty for a date night outfit.

I also recommend showing your unique personality and style, which is why I chose white jeans over classic dark denim. To tone the look down a touch, I chose brown leather sandals (as opposed to a black pump) since they’re a bit more casual. Be sure to keep the makeup simple and your hair romantic (down or a half-up is always a good choice!). No need to add too many accessories because you want to keep the focus on you and allow the outfit to enhance your beauty in the best way possible, without distracting from it.

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Felicia Says

I really enjoy your blog and check it regularly for wonderful advice. However, I’m dismayed to hear you using the word “slut” so casually, especially in the wake of the tragedy in Isla Vista. First dates are hard enough without having to consider if he will think of you as a “slut” rather than a woman with real feelings and beliefs, based on your choice of outfit. Dating is so tricky these days when we’re all trying to balance the fine lines of intimacy with a new person, and the word “slut” should not be part of the equation.

I hope you do not read this as an attack whatsoever, as I just thought I would share my reaction to the word slut being used casually in this context.

nadine Says

I have to agree Felicia. I love this blog and read every post. But there’s something about the use of the word ‘slut’ that jarred with me. I’m all for style advice and inspiration but it’s such a judgemental word that despite some attempts to reclaim in from men it still has strong connotations of ‘being easy’ sexually.

Saying all that it is a cute outfit.

Amanda Says
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Thanks for bringing this up. I appreciate your opinion and apologize if that offended you in any way! Definitely not my intention. Hope you continue to read :).

Sarah Says

As much as we all wish that “slut” wasn’t in anyone’s vocabulary and that the double standard didn’t exist, the unfortunate reality is that it is and it does and neither is going anywhere fast. And as nice as it would be if men didn’t judge how easy/ slutty a woman looks based on her clothes on a first date, men do. And many women rightly choose to take this into consideration when dressing for a first date just like they do when they dress for an interview or for work. As jarring as the word “slut” may be, dressing to avoid being perceived as this word is a real issue that the modern woman faces every single day whether going to work, school or on a first date and we shouldn’t shy away from this dialogue.

Emma (@vintagevixenCT) Says

I agree with Sarah’s view above.

Hannah Says

Slut vibe? High maintenance > sluttiness? It’s so disappointing that this post was taken in the direction of slut-shaming your readers. Telling women they can’t wear something based on men’s reactions just encourages misogyny.

Sam Brown Says

I’m quite surprised at the reaction of people to the word ‘slut’. I use it quite a lot without even thinking about it but I LOVE what Sarah says about it and totally agree.

I’ve been in a relationship for awhile so hopefully won’t be going on any first dates again soon but I think this is a perfect look for a date, even if it’s not the first one, or dinner with your girls.

Great post :)

Sam xx
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