Moving to a New City? Follow These 5 Steps
posted on April 5, 2013 | by Amanda Holstein
1. Live with a roommate, ideally a friend of a friend.
I’ve found the best roommates to be those who you know through a mutual friend. There’s no pressure to hang out all the time since you’re starting off as roommates first, not friends. If you become close friends through the process, that’s just an added bonus. Plus, living with someone you don’t already know can expand your circle of friends and your experiences. You can meet their friends, join in on their world a bit, and be able to make more connections in this new city. I wouldn’t recommend living alone if you don’t know many people in the city because it can be isolating. Although roommates can really suck at times, they’re a great way to get to know new people and experience new things.
2. Location is more important than quality when it comes to your apartment.
Do your research on what neighborhood you want to live in. Don’t just look online, but ask people who’ve lived there and try to get a good sense of the different areas and what they offer. Location is super important when you don’t know many people (or anyone) in a new city. You’re going to spend most of your time out of your apartment anyways, so I say choosing your location over the actual quality of the apartment is most important when living somewhere new.
3. Say yes to everything.
As I mention in my Friend Dating post, it’s super important to say yes to everything. Whenever you’re invited somewhere, try to push yourself to go as much as possible. You never know who you’ll meet or what new connections you’ll make. You might even find a new hobby you never thought you’d enjoy, like Ultimate Frisbee or Zumba!
4. Put effort into your bedroom.
I remember thinking when I first moved to San Francisco that there wasn’t much point in putting effort into my apartment because I wasn’t sure how long I’d be there. But once I realized my bedroom was really my only personal space, I needed to love it. It’s the only place that’s truly yours, so make it feel like home. Plus, those first few weeks you’re going to feel super homesick, like 5th grade sleepover homesick, so putting the effort into your bedroom is totally worth it.
5. Remember, nothing’s permanent.
If you’re worried moving to this new city is a big mistake, just remember that nothing’s permanent. If you realize after some time that the city is not for you, then you can move again. You’re not stuck there. The time you spend there is worth it, even if you don’t like it, because at least now you know that this isn’t the city for you. This rule also applies to when you’re feeling lonely or don’t have that tight circle of friends you had back in your last city. That feeling of loneliness isn’t permanent; it’s only temporary and you’ll get through it.
How was your experience moving to a new city?
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Camille Iman Says
I moved to the Bay Area last summer from LA soon after my wedding. It was so tough to find an apartment here! Because we did care about getting the most quality for our dollar we didn’t move into the city. We might try it out at some point but right now we’re loving the parking and washer/dryer!
Great tips! I think its really important to do as you say, go out and meet people, connect with new people in your area. It really helps. While moving is hard sometimes and it can be stressfull, it’s always good to know you can pack up and move again :D
Melisa | Slice of Life Says
Yea, these really are great tips! I moved to New York City 8 months ago and have found that, no matter how often I’d love to curl up in my bed and enjoy an SVU maraton, it’s so much better to just get out there. Even when it’s cold outside, something I was so not used to coming from Miami.
I’d also have to add that getting out of your comfort zone is key. That goes along with saying yes to everything, even things that you wouldn’t have tried before. Just get up and get going. You’ll never know what kind of amazing experience are out there.
Love these tips! it’s so much easier to adjust to new surroundings when you go out of your comfort zone a little to meet new people!
Thank you for these tips! I am about to move across the country for graduate school and so these will come in handy. Any other tips in choosing an apartment when I wont be able to look for it in person? I just stumbled upon your blog and already have found so many posts that I love. Thank you!
Amanda SaysPost author
Hi Samie! So glad this post was helpful! Happy to give you some advice on choosing an apartment when you can’t see it in person. Definitely have a friend look at the apartment for you. Even if it’s someone you don’t know super well, like a friend of a friend or a new colleague, it really helps to have another set of eyes. I would also recommend asking a friend or even the realtor take a video of the apartment so you can get a better feel for the flow, size, etc. Sometimes photos can be deceiving! This is also a great option if you have no one else that can view the place for you besides the realtor. Other than that, if you end up with a place you don’t love, just remember it’s not permanent!
Catherine | The Single Diaries Says
These are great ideas to keep in mind! I had a unique experience moving from the city I made my home for the past 9 years (L.A.) to the city (well, south of the city) I grew up in. It was so easy to fall back to what felt comfortable and to lay back for a while as I was getting used to the idea of being back here “permanently.” Now I’m starting to make moves in terms of getting down a routine and meeting new people the same way I did when I was homesick in L.A. I’m excited for this new adventure!
Catherine | my story about moving on TheSingleDiaries.com
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Deven Carley Says
Yes, you are right when the moving another city lot’s of the problem creates. First of all hows locality, traveling issue, friends etc. You good point share on this blog. I am reading your blog and I actually agree on these steps for moving to a new city. Thanks for helping me.
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